"And then the day came,
when the risk
to remain tight
in a bud
was more painful
than the risk
it took
to Blossom"
-- Anais Nin
"Trust, love, what we call sexy, who we
trust in a business situation, are all based on how open we are. Openness
is bodily openness, muscular relaxation, heart openness as opposed to
hiding behind some emotional wall, and spiritual openness, which is
actually feeling so fully into the moment that there's no separation
between you and the entire moment."
From "Opening Spiritually
and Sexually," an audiotape by David Deida
"We are not held
back by the love we didn't receive in the past, but by the love we're not
extending in the present."
--Marianne Williamson
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Have you ever
found yourself stuck when you and another are each expressing and
defending your respective positions?
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Have you
experienced how the rigidity of boundaries can get in the way of your
connecting and accomplishing things with others?
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Have you
noticed how some people hide their true feelings behind positions and
rules?
As we learn how to take care of our needs and protect ourselves from
harm, the first step is to gain the ability to set
clear and firm boundaries.
It is essential to know what our limits are, be able
to clearly express them, and have the ability to enforce them.
And it is equally crucial that we be grounded in our
right to say “No”.
Yet -- setting boundaries has limitations. In our process of personal
evolution, we often hold onto our need to set boundaries longer than we
need to and in more situations than necessary.
"True surrender is true power."
-- David Deida
There can be power and freedom in setting aside your boundaries/defenses
and instead sharing your deepest and truest self.
"Dissolving the boundaries around
our heart that we had to form to stand as independent people. Dissolving
those boundaries so we can feel at-one-ness, the feel of unity, not only
with an intimate partner, but with the whole world and all of humanity, so
that our heart is really vulnerable and open."
-- David Deida
The value of the personal relationship to all
things is that it creates intimacy... and intimacy creates
understanding... and understanding creates love."
-- Anais Nin
We all have motivations for having a
given boundary. But, if you’re willing to reveal and share with others
what you’re trying to protect with that boundary, then there’s an
invitation for the others to be loving partners in your self-care and
personal growth.
"The ultimate metaphysical secret, if we
dare state it so simply, is that there are no boundaries in the
universe. Boundaries are illusions, products not of reality but of the
way we map and edit reality. And while it is fine to map out the
territory, it is fatal to confuse the two."
--
Ken Wilber (Source: No Boundary : Eastern and Western Approaches to
Personal Growth, Page: 462)
Additionally, the more you're grounded in your true-self -- the more
you can enjoy opening to receive the loving, unvarnished feedback from
others. And as you increase your ability to enjoy the feedback
process -- you naturally move through the world with more ease, joy and
radiance.
"A
community, I find, is essential. So, you and your partner might talk
about your relationship with other people. Not like a big long thing,
but just checking in. They'll know if you're full of shit or not.
Really, your friends know. They might not talk about it. If they're
second stage people they say, 'Hey, what you do is your business. You're
responsible for your own happiness. I'm responsible for mine. I'm in no
position to tell you what to do. Hey, if you need to do that, go ahead
and do it.' Those are good second stage friends.
"Third stage
friends say, 'Look, buddy, you're full of shit. I know you're enjoying
yourself, fine. But don't delude yourself. You're not growing.' So,
that's what you want, a third stage friend, someone who's really clear,
loving, but doesn't bullshit you. And without that, you can't move
into the third stage because by definition - I, you, as a self, as an ego,
will always attempt to strengthen the self, the ego, who you are as a
separate person. Everything you do, even these practices I'm describing,
will become tools to strengthen. 'Boy, now I'm the third stage. I'm
dedicated to serving all beings.' So,
it's really easy to get into that and you need feedback. A good teacher
helps, someone who's more stable in this practice than you. They could
always reflect back to you, and good friends who are practicing at the
same level of you are also very useful."
-- David Deida
Are you ready for the
next step? Are you ready to develop the ability to play at a level
Beyond Boundaries?
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purely expanding. It was thought provoking but also rather fear provoking,
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it accelerated into action, and just silliness and rip-roaring fun.
It was quite freeing.
"I liked trying something
very different and new. It was hilarious. I learned I like trying to push
someone to the edge. Its nice to have permission.
"I learned that its good to
go all out sometimes. Its good to know you can. Its good to choose when to
go, and when not to.
"I intend to indulge in a
longer workshop in the future."
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Wellness
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