Control & Surrender
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When do you Control, when you'd be better served by Surrendering? |
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When do you Surrender, when you'd be better served by maintaining Control? |
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How are you at surrendering your heart, while still maintaining your values? |
Through fun exercises we'll explore our relationship with Control & Surrender.
This evening may include some exercises
that are sometimes done during the two-day Weekend Intensive:
Inspiring
Masculine Presence -- Unleashing Feminine Fire
Come and join us for an evening of community & connection as we explore how wonderfully safe and freeing it can feel to be fully expressed while being truly seen by another.
You'll have fun, while learning WholeBody Wisdom practices that will leave you feeling powerfully alive.
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WHAT: A WholeBody Wisdom evening of community, connection & empowerment.
WHERE: San Francisco Bay Area, California
WHEN: To find out when this event will next be held send an
email to:
Events@WholeBodyWisdom.com
People of all cultural backgrounds, sexual orientations & gender identities are encouraged to participate.
For more information on this or other workshops, or to be notified of future events visit our website at:
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Or call Scott at: 510-836-2041
Upcoming Events:
We're taking the Summer to re-vision the design of the workshops we'll be offering the public.
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Quotes from David Deida
"Surrender means to
love without limits. It means to relax your guard so your lover can
feel your core--authentic, unhidden, and undefended. Your muscles relax.
Your breath becomes full. Your body and heart willingly open to your
lover. If you are hurt, then you are hurt, but in any case you practice to
remain open and full, like the ocean. Surrender is the doorway to the
deepest possible sex. Each purpose, each mission, is meant to be fully
lived to the point where it becomes empty, boring, and useless. Then it
should be discarded. This is a sign of growth, but you may mistake it for
a sign of failure?"
David Deida
"True
surrender is true power: the love-force that moves the universe is
also the love-force that breathes your breath and beats your heart. When
fear dissolves, you no longer separate yourself from this single flow of
immense force. Love is continuity with infinite life-force, a oneness of
being with no separation. Opening sexually is opening to this flow of
life-force. And love is the key to this opening."
David Deida
"The feminine is a miracle of surrender, a flower of force that either
opens or closes. As a woman, you can use your masculine discrimination to
decide which direction to move in, but when you are polarized into your
feminine energy--by a man of great masculine presence, for instance--then
you may lose access to your masculine directionality. In moments like
these, you may find yourself unable to say no."
--From "Finding God Through Sex," a book by David Deida
"The amount of consciousness with which you can ravish your woman--the
size of your 'spiritual penis,' so to speak--is determined by how fully
you have surrendered as openness and love. Practice opening as free being,
as unbounded love, even as thoughts come and go, fears clench and pass,
and desires ebb and flow."
-- From "Finding God Through Sex," a book by David Deida
"Feminine and masculine needs for appreciation grow though levels, from
self-doubt, to self-assurance, to self-giving. At the lower levels, a
relationship can be rife with neediness: you are needy for constant
reassurance that you are loved, desired, and attractive, and your
masculine partner is needy for your admiration of his success and
attainments. The middle levels of growth involve developing
self-appreciation, self-acceptance, and self-admiration.
The higher levels
of growth involve surrendering open and giving your deepest gifts of love
and freedom -- in spite of whether you feel appreciated by others or
yourself."
--From "Finding God Through Sex," a book by David Deida
"If the masculine partner's presence wavers, then the feminine partner
loses trust, guards herself emotionally, and can't enjoy the bliss of
opening her body and heart fully as the flow of feminine love.
If the
feminine partner's radiance diminishes--so that body and heart close,
ripples of pleasure decrease, and emotional expression becomes muted--then
the masculine partner is stuck in the realm of head and tail, bereft of
full-bodied, heart-given sensual energy, unattracted beyond his own
self-controlled detachment or selfish stimulation."
--From "The Way of the Superior Lover," a book by David Deida
"If you are with a man you don't trust, it is only because you prefer unsurrendered love to surrendering wide open in total trust. It feels
safe. You are afraid to let go of control--part of you doesn't trust
love's command--so you have chosen a man who doesn't demand your surrender
with his depth of integrity. If you did trust the command of love, you
would only settle for a deep man capable of opening you more deeply than
you could instruct him."
--From "Dear Lover," a book by David Deida
"Have you ever leaned into a man's loving guidance? Have you
relinquished control and allowed your sweetly surrendered heart to flow
open like the ocean, wild and deep, rather than holding the narrow
direction of a functional canal?"
--From "Dear Lover," a book by David Deida
"No matter how dearly you try to control, your life unfolds as a
mystery. Why do you love whom you love, and how long will it last? Do you
know exactly what you are going to say before you say it? Why are you
thinking your specific thoughts right now, and what will be your very next
action? The weather is easier to predict than what you will be thinking,
feeling, and doing next week--or even in ten seconds."
--From "Naked Buddhism," a book by David Deida
"Sexually and in everyday life, when your lover can feel your energy
and skillfully guide you to deeper and more passionate flow, your body
relaxes. You can trust him, and surrender to the depth of his loving
command. When he seems unable to feel you, then you naturally withdraw
your trust, take control, and do your best to lead yourself."
--From "Dear Lover," a book by David Deida
"Not grounded in the recognition of deep openness, she hides her
devotion, and he mistrusts his claim. She refuses to feel the hurt of not
being possessed by his love fully. He refuses to feel the hurt of her
hide-and-seek chaos ruining what he has achieved through knowledge. Her
emotions hint toward upcoming betrayal. His need to know and control seems
trivial and rigid, unworthy of devotional trust. Fear underlies her
showing and his knowing."
--From "Waiting To Love," a book by David Deida
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